What helps more than anything, says Susan Piver, is to be gentle toward yourself.
A few months after my longtime boyfriend and I had broken up, I was charged with conducting a business meeting at a restaurant over lunch. I was pretty sure I was on the road to recovery from the breakup and had been genuinely looking forward to this opportunity to discuss an exciting new project with the other attendees, colleagues I respected and admired. I made a reservation at a favorite restaurant, which we had been to many times before and was always delicious. Yes, I thought, I’m going to be okay. I have a good job. I work with wonderful folks. Our meeting is going to be fun. I am moving on, damn it.